I have a wide array of friends on social media, and I do mean people I actually know outside of the sites. I think if I didn’t know them, it would make things easier to overlook things. I think it’s easier to call shenanigans when you have an idea of a person’s motives, what sets them off, and some of their truest desires. When I see one of my virtual “gal pals” say they don’t want to do/have something, I have a hard time believing it. Actions don’t add up, but I think I know why. It’s sometimes hard to be yourself with an audience watching. However, I don’t think it’s necessary to dismiss the true desires of your heart–all because you don’t want to be judged by your online network.
Many [not all] women of a certain age want some of the same things: successful career/stable job, healthy marriage, a place of your own, and maybe a child or two. No one has the right to judge you for wanting those things, so it’s perfectly fine to say you want them. If you truly don’t want them, that’s fine as well. Just don’t fake the funk. For example, people who say they don’t want to be married when it’s probably all they think about. Don’t say you can do without something JUST because it’s not happening in your life right now.
If you want a better job, you can say so. If you want to move out of your parents’ house, say so! If you want your relationship to finally move toward marriage say so…even if it’s only to yourself in the mirror! Admit to yourself that you want these things. Claim it.